(Physical v/s Emotional)

Living with a body that aches like it’s carrying the weight of my entire past—every scar, every trauma, every whisper of sadness, echoing in the pulse of my bones. Each morning, as I wake up with pain stretching its fingers through my body, reminding me of its presence, its persistence. It has been my companion for years, a silent shadow that trails me wherever I go, shaping my days and demanding my attention. Yet here I am, with an unbroken spirit, a heart still open, a soul that craves to give, share, and love.

Perhaps it’s the rhythm of the pain that I have come to know so well that makes me settle. It’s the familiar ebb and flow of aches, the steady beat of discomfort that sings the same song every day. It hums in my joints, dances down my spine, and lingers in my muscles. But amidst the pain, I find a peculiar strength, as if every wave that crashes over me polishes away the edges, revealing something raw and resilient beneath.

Why am I talking about pain? Why am I writing this blog? I am writing this blog so that atleast 1 person reading this understands the importance of emotional pain and not talking about it or evading it is the underlying causing of chronic physical health. I have a friend who always says when I am unwell that WHY do you get unwell, YOU must be doing something WRONG, and then they try to FIX me, and start giving me all sorts of Gyan on the physical pain and aches that are visible. I don’t say they are wrong as their is huge societal stigma around mental health that doesn’t exist for physical health. Seeking help for emotional pain is sometimes seen as a sign of weakness or failure, whereas seeking a doctor for a physical ailment is seen as responsible.

Most people have been following a regime of life in a set pattern, which their parents lived and they see most society at large live around them, what is that regime and what makes them like that :

1. Societal Expectations of Strength
2. Fear of Judgment
3. Maintain Control over life
4. Lack of Emotional Vocabulary
5. Cultural Norms of Masculinity & Femineity
6. Fear of conflict
7. Avoiding is the best technique for peace of mind
8. Unresolved childhood trauma
9. Fear of change
10. Unwillingness to listen the reality
11. Natural desire to be protective
12. Comfort in familiarity
13. Past conditioning
14. Childhood stories
15. Belief that Pain is part of life

Why do we settle for Pain? Have you asked this question to yourself ever?

“Why tend to wounds we see and feel,
Yet leave the heart’s deep scars to heal?
We bandage cuts, we soothe the strain,
But shy from soul’s unspoken pain.

The hurt that hides within the chest,
We mask, ignore, and leave to rest.
Yet it lingers, whispers in the night,
A quiet ache that dims our light.

To heal, we must embrace the tear,
And treat our hearts with tender care.”

We settle for emotional pain, but when it comes to physical pain, as its visible and its symptoms have been medically basketed, we focus on it, even our family, friends and everyone around will start talking about it and giving remedies. No one is wrong in their approach, but one thing we all forget that its the soul, which has a journey that sustains us, is what truly makes us human, not just the five components of which this body is made.

So, when next time you encounter someone in pain focus on both physical and emotional support, as this will help them navigate their journey with greater strength, understanding, and compassion. Communication becomes a bridge to their healing, offering a safe space where pain, both visible and hidden, can be acknowledged and transformed.