relationships
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At 46, when I look back at the girl I was at 22, I do not see immaturity first.I see innocence.I see conditioning.I see a young woman trying very hard to become “a good wife” before she had even understood what safety in love was supposed to feel like. And these past few days, while…
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There is a very painful kind of relationship conflict that nobody really sees from outside. No shouting.No dramatic betrayal.No visible toxicity. Just a woman silently fighting her own mind every single day while trying to love someone wholeheartedly. She loves him.She genuinely does. She wants to believe him when he says,“I am there for you.”She…
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Few months back, I attended a professional get-together. It was one of those evenings where everyone looked accomplished, conversations floated in clusters, and most of us were strangers politely navigating introductions. I stood there, holding my glass of wine, smiling at familiar strangers, feeling that subtle social hesitation we all feel when we don’t quite…
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I used to think ageing was about lines on the face, slower mornings, fewer nights out. Nobody told me that the real ageing happens quietly — inside the heart — in the way emotions soften, deepen, widen. Today, when I look back at the woman I was in my twenties and early thirties, I don’t…
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The first time I noticed it was not in his words, but in his eyes. We were at a party — light music, over-enthusiastic laughter, clinking glasses to celebrate something unnamed. He was in his early fifties, casually dressed, carrying himself with the quiet compossure of a man who had learned how to survive decades…
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There came a moment in my relationship when I realised I was circling back to the same emotional crossroad — the same argument, the same fear, the same pattern of withdrawal or overreaction. It felt uncanny, almost scripted, like déjà vu that kept replaying with slightly different faces and words but the same emotional ache…
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“Why do you keep circling back to the same point?” my friend asked, half-annoyed, half-concerned.We were sitting at our usual café corner, both of us pretending to sip coffee but lost in our own minds. I had been talking — or rather, unloading — for an hour straight. About the things I “shouldn’t have done,”…
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“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.” – Maya Angelou A few days ago, I attended a seminar. It was supposed to be just another routine event—professionals gathering to exchange ideas, nodding through keynote speeches, networking over lukewarm coffee. I didn’t expect anything transformative. But then I met her. She was…
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“The minute I heard my first love story,I started looking for you, not knowinghow blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere.They’re in each other all along.” – Rumi I have personally felt as I grew through my 30s, 40s, and now moving to 50s, that our experiences, behaviours, and expectations of care change as…
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I was sitting with a friend last week, and she asked me to simply listen to her. Being a good friend, I did exactly that, and we ended up finishing a bottle of wine together. People think that around the age of forty, life should be steady, predictable, and possibly even tranquil. However, nobody can…
