(How we manage personal life?)

Yesterday, I got a query from a reader : “Mam, you shared how we can manage our work and goals, but how to manage personal life?, I am a professional and most of the times i am able to manage my work, but when it comes to handling relationships I fail miserably, making everyone unhappy around me”

To my life experiences I would like to put across one thing strongly, practice to forgive yourself. It’s simple to be harsh with yourself when personal affairs aren’t going well. Recognise your efforts and accept that mistakes are inevitable in life to cultivate self-compassion.

Practice Prioritisation of the following :

1. Communication : Overwhelming schedules might result in miscommunication and disregard. Every day, set aside time to communicate with your loved ones, listen intently, and share your sentiments. Stronger ties and a sense of being heard and respected can be achieved even with a quick, meaningful talk. As human beings the most important feeling is our intuitiveness, which when left unattended leads to misunderstandings and assumptions. So, if u really want to prioritise a relationship show your intent clearly, value the signs reflected by the other person which are causing insecure set-up.
2. Open Feedback : Being aware of how our activities impact other people frequently leads to personal improvement. Respect your loved ones’ opinions and be receptive to their input. It can be challenging to receive constructive criticism, but healthier relationships depend on it. Demonstrate your willingness to grow and evolve. Now the biggest challenge to feedback is that two individuals are never same, so their way to communicate a feedback will also be different. This causes unrest in a relationship, that is why being aware and respecting the other individual plays a vital role in this.
3. Support Network : We generally don’t value this, but we are Social Beings, we need a support system to nurture ourselves, that’s how mankind is built. A network of friends, family, and coworkers who are understanding of your struggles and who can provide guidance and encouragement should be your support system. We all need someone to say “You are not wrong”. Perspective and assistance navigating the intricacies of interpersonal interactions can be obtained via a robust support network.
4. Practising Mindfulness : It looks as if every article around us in this century talks of meditation and mindfulness, but let me simplify this, you don’t need extra time in life to practice mindfulness like yoga , exercise etc. Being totally present and involved in the moment is the practice of mindfulness, which has been shown to dramatically enhance interpersonal relationships. Being mindful increases your awareness of your own emotions as well as your sensitivity to those around you. Relationships that are more understanding and encouraging may result from this increased consciousness.

Last but not the least, why do we expect that the first step has to be taken by the other person in a relationship ? When it comes to our parents , kids or siblings we take steps whether our ego or pride says not to at times, but still we do it. If we all start prioritising the following 4 aspects with intention, I feel that a lot of our efforts will be valued and seen with reciprocation.